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American doctors have documented the experiences of multi-orgasmic men who had from two to nine orgasms per session. Some ejaculated at the first orgasm, some at the last: and the rest somewhere in between; some even ejaculated more than once. Many of the men first experienced multiple orgasms in middle age.

Probably, more men could become multi-orgasmic if they overcome the conditioning that says they will only ejaculate and then detumesce. A non demanding atmosphere, combined with emotional closeness and the opportunity for leisurely sex, will improve a man’s chances of enjoying multiple orgasms, as will having a partner who is sexually responsive and does not easily tire of prolonged intercourse.

However, just as with multi-orgasmic women, men who are capable of more than one orgasm will not be able to experience them every time.

A man can practise becoming multi-orgasmic by coming to the brink of orgasm yet inhibiting ejaculation until he can separate the two sensations. In the positive, relaxed atmosphere of a loving relationship, some men will find that they don’t necessarily lose their erections, and they will be able to carry on achieving further climaxes.

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To be a good lover, knowing, how to stimulate the penis is one of the most valuable skills that a woman can possess. Older men especially may need direct stimulation to reach erection, but men of all ages enjoy the sensations they receive from manipulation. You can use these techniques both as an adjunct to, or as a replacement for intercourse, and vary your approach as much as you like, such as rolling the penis between your palms, stroking it with your fingers, alternately squeezing and letting it go, brushing your fingertips against the frenulum or caressing the penis between your breasts. To enhance his sensations, and especially if your partner has erection difficulties, use a lubricant.

Begin by positioning yourself beside your partner. Grip his penis firmly with your thumb nearest his navel. Move your hand up and down on the penis in a regular rhythm, keeping your grip steady and the firmest pressure on the sensitive area on the uppermost side. Try long and short strokes to see what he likes best. A slow rhythm prolongs pleasure, while a speeded-up one intensifies pleasure and will bring him to orgasm sooner.

Your partner’s climax is imminent when his muscles, particularly those in his thighs, tense up and his breathing becomes more rapid. The testes will be drawn up to his body and may also be swollen. The head of the penis will darken in colour and increase slightly in size. One or two drops of pre-ejaculatory fluid may ooze from the tip of his penis.

Your partner will want you to carry on with the stimulation until ejaculation is completely over and his tension relaxes. Most men will want you to desist from further genital caresses, for a while.

How to stimulate a man-All men find genital caresses highly stimulating; however, after ejaculation most prefer the stroking to cease.

1 Hold the penis close to the head to ensure optimum stimulation of the underside of the penis,

as well as the glans and frenulum.

2 Your partner may want to control the rhythm. With his hand over yours, grasp the penis firmly,

though gently, and move your hand rhythmically up and down the shaft, either quickly or

slowly as your partner wishes.

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Satisfying lovemaking takes time, and can never take too long. On rare occasions, you may become so aroused during foreplay that you immediately move on to actual intercourse, but usually a couple enjoys the gradual intimacies that leisurely kissing, undressing, petting, massage, oral sex and the sharing of fantasies – among others – provide.

Undressing-Removing your clothes, and/or those of your partner, can be a very exciting and important part of foreplay. Undressing not only results in general arousal, but the wearing of and/or the removal of particular items of clothing can strike a much more resonant chord in a susceptible lover, particularly a man.

A good lover will seek to discover which garments and their removal will act as turn-ons, and will make use of them to increase a partner’s pleasure. You may have to practise removing your partner’s clothes with one hand, and without clumsiness or hold-ups, if undressing is to be a truly exciting aspect of foreplay.

Nudity may become routine and boring, particularly in marriage, so some subtlety in undressing is worth retaining. Even after years of living together, undressing each other will be highly arousing; each partner should feel increasingly excited as one garment after another is removed.

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Many people think that there are only certain social situations where sex can be on the agenda. However, this is not true; any situation can lend itself to sexual advances. Of course, in some situations, advances need to be subtle and very low-key; in fact, rather difficult to pick up unless the other person is sexually aware and alert.

Only someone with a closed mind would limit his or her horizons to parties, dinners and social occasions. Sexual interest can be revealed at any time. For instance, a working business meeting between two sexually interested people, when each may be thrilled by the other’s professional performance, can be an exciting and intriguing prelude to more open sexual overtures. Here, the enjoyment of a common task can greatly enhance sexual interest. Indeed, sexual interest grows more often in the day-to-day working environment than almost anywhere else.

While women rate discos and parties as the most likely way of meeting men with whom they would like a sexual relationship, reality is, in fact, quite different. Most people meet potential sexual partners through friends, and like any other form of friendship, most happy sexual relationships are based on friendship and on working or studying together. You can get to know someone better at work than in a disco. Furthermore, when looking very glamorous and affected by drink, we don’t necessarily give a realistic picture of ourselves, nor are we able to get a true insight into a partner.

A less obvious advance could occur when you have lunch with or talk to someone over a period of time in a quiet spot. Glances are often exchanged and conversations may include messages with a double meaning, testing how interested the other person is. These interactions may just be in the form of play, but all of us do engage in them and establish brief, “mini” bonds with many people.

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A woman’s external and visible genitalia are known as the vulva or pudendum. It is a very erotic, sensitive area, which also serves to protect the vaginal and urethral openings. The fatty tissue and skin at the front of the vulva is the mons pubis, or mound of Venus; it covers where the pelvic bones join at the front, and acts as a cushion during intercourse. In the mature female, it is covered by hair.

The most superficial structures of the vulva, the labia majora, extend forward from the anus and fuse at the front in the mons pubis. These “lips” are two fold and usually lie together and conceal the other external genital organs. They comprise fibrous and fatty tissue, and carry hair follicles as well as sebaceous and apocrine glands. The latter give rise to a special form of odorous sweat, which is a sexual chemical attractant.

The labia minora are folds of skin that lie between the labia majora. They have many sebaceous glands that produce sebum that lubricates the skin and, combined with the secretions from the vagina and sweat glands, forms a waterproof protective covering against urine, bacteria and menstrual blood.

The size and shape of these lips vary greatly and, like the labia majora, one is usually larger than the other. They may be hidden by the labia majora or project forward. During sexual excitement they become engorged, change colour and increase in thickness – sometimes even two to three times their normal size.

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To many women, touching is an important part of sex. One woman wrote to Shere Hite: ‘You can’t love sex without loving to touch and to be touched. It’s the very physical closeness of sex that is the main pleasure.’ A British woman wrote: ‘I can’t understand why most men don’t seem to enjoy touching. Perhaps it’s the way we bring boys up to believe touching is “sissy”. The closeness of our bodies, before and after we have sex, means so much to me. It doesn’t replace the marvellous sensation of having my husband inside me but it adds so much to it.’

The evidence, scanty as it is, indicates that many women want to be touched and to touch more during sexual pleasuring. They want closeness and body contact with their lovers, not necessarily as a way of arousing them as a prelude to sexual intercourse, but for its own pleasure. Mutual pleasuring means mutual touching, exploring each other’s body, and enjoying each other’s shape, smell, and skin texture.

Unfortunately, the women were disappointed by the lack of touching and caressing given by their lovers, except briefly, before the man moved on to intercourse. To touch and cuddle one’s lover, except briefly before intercourse, seems to be perceived by many men as inappropriate behaviour. ‘I only wish men could do this without it always and only being a lead-in to sex,’ wrote one woman.

There is no reason to believe that men do not enjoy physical affection and body contact, but their childhood training has conditioned them to avoid it, and to suppress their feelings.

As a first step to being a better lover find out if your partner would like to be touched and how she would like to be cuddled. Find out if she would enjoy bathing or showering with you, if she would enjoy having her body massaged. And if she does, overcome your fear of expressing your feelings and touch, touch, touch.

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These findings seem ‘consistent with the typical American pattern of sexual interaction in which, as long as the wife neither complains nor refuses to have intercourse, the husband assumes that all is well’, Ms Frank writes. The husbands seemed to be unaware of, or insensitive to, the need for pleasuring and emotional sensitivity in love-making.

The findings have a further implication. If so many women are not enjoying their sexuality as much as they might, where does the fault lie? Does it lie in the way that women have been brought up to understand their sexuality, or is the main problem the lack of sensitivity of men to women’s sexual needs?

It seems that both factors are important, but the lack of sensitivity by men is the more important. One reason why sexual relations are so liable to disturbance is because although we know how the body responds to sexual arousal, we know very much less about the psychological responses.

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During the plateau phase, a man’s penis increases in size, particularly the size of the lower part of his glans; his testicles increase to one and a half times their non-stimulated size, and they rise up even closer to his crutch. Late in this phase, two or three drops of fluid may seep out of the ‘eye’ of his penis, and occasionally active spermatozoa are found in this fluid, which is one reason why the method of ‘withdrawal’ is a relatively inefficient method of contraception. The man’s breathing increases in rate, his heart beats faster, and his blood pressure rises further. If he has developed a sex flush, this increases in colour and spreads. Sometimes the muscles of his face and abdomen contract spasmodically.

In a woman, the swellings of the tissues around the lowest third of her vagina increase, so that ‘cushions’ of soft tissue are formed and the vaginal lubrication increases still more. Her upper vagina expands in size, and her uterus is pulled upwards giving a ‘tenting effect’. Her labia becomes increasingly congested with blood and dusky in colour. Her clitoris, now swollen, pulls in towards her pubic bones.

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A man’s sex drive will only become active if it is ‘primed’ by testosterone, secreted by his testes at puberty. The continuation of the drive is from stimuli, which are interpreted as erotic by the ‘old brain’, triggering the physical aspects of the sexual response, particularly erection, ejaculation, and orgasm.

Unless male sex hormone continues to be secreted, the ability to ejaculate diminishes, and in some cases all the sexual urge is also lost. In reported cases of men castrated after puberty there is a very great variation in the time taken for the sexual urge and penile erections to go, if they cease at all. In some men they go quickly, only weeks after castration. Other men retain their sexual potency for years, or for life. What one needs to know is whether men who retain their potency continue to secrete male sex hormones, presumably from their adrenal gland. Until this is known the place of testosterone in the continuation of the sex drive will remain obscure. At present the evidence is that it plays a very small part, once the drive has been primed at puberty. After this a man’s sex drive is maintained by emotional impulses which stimulate the sex centre in the brain, and initiate the sexual response.

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In Britain, Michael Schofield investigated the sexual behaviour of adolescents. They were chosen, at random, from lists of school attenders in seven different areas of the country. This selection made the sample as representative as possible of the young people of Britain. They were aged about 17 in 1966, and 66 per cent of them were re-interviewed 7 years later.

The study showed that 72 per cent of the young people had had sexual intercourse before marriage, usually starting between 18 and 21. More men (80 per cent) had had pre-marital sexual intercourse than women (61 per cent), and there was another difference in sexual behaviour. The young men began sexual intercourse at an earlier age than the women, and were more likely to have several partners, but once a woman became sexually active she had sex more often, usually with the same partner, or one other.

Most of those who were sexually active had only one partner at a time, that is they were going steady or were serial monogamists. In the year before the second survey (when the people were aged about 23) 65 per cent of the men and 85 per cent of the women had had sex with one partner only; 11 per cent of the men and 6 per cent of the women had had two partners, but only 17 per cent of the men and 3 per cent of the women were sexual adventurers, having had intercourse with three partners or more.

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